Are we there yet?
2020, never let it be said that you were not relentless. It has been one thing after the next, and every single person on the planet has been affected.
A couple of things have resonated loudly: We can love someone but disagree with them vigorously. We can be surprised by people and situations that we thought we knew well. We can feel as if our hearts are breaking... and get up the next day and still find wonder and beauty.
We are more resilient and adaptable than we thought. That does not mean that this is easy, or that there will not be difficult moments.
Reach out. If you need help, ask for it. Look for the helpers, as they say.
And to riff on that: do not go where you know there will be no solace, no comfort, no compassion. That seems obvious, but it is not... some of us just cannot believe/accept that some people are not capable of giving us what we need or want...so we go back again and again, hopeful, then devastated when the miracle does not occur. To that: believe people when they show you who they are. I am going to repeat that:
Believe people when they SHOW you who they are. Not with words. With actions.
Selfish, narcissists seldom waiver from their course. They may toss you a bone once in a while as it suits them, but if their behavior has been consistent, it will save a lot of heartache to look elsewhere for an ally, or a guide or simply a friend to navigate this rather foreign landscape.
Deepen the relationships that are reciprocal. Appreciate all that is, and focus further on what we can do with other allies and helpers to ease this beautiful, complex planet into the next phase of whatever will be.
We are all in this together. Be gentle with one another.